But the real question is, how can you tell if she's NOT a lesbian? Don't fret, my confused little lez. You're in the right place.
By Mary Malia for YourTango. Lesbians stereotypes: you use them, lesbians use them, we all use them. Stereotypes simplify our thinking about lots of things, including lesbianism, but sometimes create huge misunderstandings about our little lesbian world.
I have already used both while reading these and plan on crying independently later at home. Seriously, these stories are so great. It was just two months into my first relationship with a woman and on that day, I knew I was head over heels for her and that we were going to be together for a long time.
The Frisky -- There are a lot of misconceptions about lesbians. I'm confronted with them daily and, frankly, hearing this stuff is like getting smacked in the face with a wet rag. Usually, when someone fires off a stereotype, I am so shocked that I just stand there, staring, opening and closing my mouth like a big, dumb goldfish. So I'm going to take this opportunity to get up on my soapbox and stamp out all the stupid, ignorant misconceptions I have heard over the years.
Insociologists Pepper Schwartz and Philip Blumstein published American Couples: Money, Work, Sexthe first major study of its kind to compare gay male, lesbian, and heterosexual couples on basic issues such as sex, communication, and money. Among many other findings, their research showed that lesbian couples had less frequent sex than anyone else. Over the decades, though, those of us who first publicized the American Couples findings have come to doubt them.
Lesbian bed death is the idea that lesbian couples in committed relationships have less sex than any other type of couple the longer the relationship lasts, and generally experience less sexual intimacy as a consequence. The concept is based on research by social psychologist Philip Blumstein and sociologist Pepper Schwartzpublished in American Couples: Money, Work, Sexwhich found that lesbian couples reported lower numbers when asked "About how often during the last year have you and your partner had sex relations? Subsequently, researchers have regarded it as a popular myth.
The first time I wore a crop top was at the Toronto Dyke March. I marched down the street with the strip of my stomach that had never before been touched by the sun fully bared. The only thing separating that outfit from any other I might have worn was three or four measly inches of exposed skin — but you have to understand the weight of those inches.
Who could be better at seduction than a woman? I think we all have our own lesbian dating horror stories that we like to tell our friends as a warning of things to come. If we could just collectively raise the bar a little and invest as much in the art of dating as we do in the art of Facebooking, maybe lesbian courtship could be a brave new world.
I have been with my current girlfriend for the last year. We've been best friends for three years. I have always been comfortable with my sexuality, and been pretty open about it.