T he internet was telling me that a buzzy new Asian American comic named Ali Wong had just dropped a killer special on Netflix. Honestly, I dreaded it because my experience with East and Southeast Asian comics had mostly been shit. For whatever reason, South Asian comics were usually much funnier.
It was somewhat of a non sequitur from the conversation. He proceeded to give me a knowing look before launching into a monologue about his ever-enlightening travel experiences and exes overseas. He grins at me.
You hate Asian men, they insist; you hate your own child. You hate yourself. I save these messages in a folder on my computer to document the abuse.
I groaned as all the signs I had ignored collided like pieces of Tetris and sank deep into my gut. It was a Saturday afternoon and I was sitting in bed browsing through Bumble. I had been on this supposedly classier version of Tinder for about two weeks. As a junior doctor, it is rare that I stay in the same place for more than a couple of years and I was due to move in the next few months — Bumble was just my way of social profiling.
He hates it when I do this. So do I, really. We live in San Francisco, so this dip is as common as the hills.
Ever heard of yellow fever? No, not the disease you can pick up when travelling to certain countries. I'm talking about when Caucasian men develop an acute sexual preference for East Asian women — even becoming a fetish, for some.
If not, its image is of a stern East Asian man, only his head, no neck, coupled with demands for things like higher grades and other achievements. Her entire upper body is visible. She is slim and wears a fashionable dress.
An Asian fetish is an obsession with or objectification of Asian people, culture, or things of Asian origin by those of non-Asian descent, especially when it is related to stereotyping. It applies to the enthusiasms experienced by some non-Asian people for such things as Asian cinema tattoos made up of Chinese characters  or the adoption of Asian children, especially to the exclusion or diminishment of other cultures. Non-Asian men who predominantly or exclusively date Asian women are referred to as "men with an Asian fetish" by some Asian-American women.
But there is truly nothing more sexy and beautiful to me than Asian men. Certain men are so sexy, no one can deny it. This lead to the excoriation and inversion of Asian virtues ie.